It Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect


Everyone say it together: we will never be absolutely perfect no matter how hard we try. This is true in our marriages, our friendships, and our natural homeschooling routines. Now, as you read this, you might be thinking, “Well duh…” However, false perfectionism is something that creeps in and slowly takes over before we even realize it has reared its ugly head. Let’s tackle this!


Even if we can be honest with ourselves about our shortcomings, do we subconsciously project perfectionism on our children? We often associate homeschoolers with high scores on the ACT and a 4.3 GPA. I just want to let you know that if your child does not operate at the highest level of testing, it’s okay. Your kid does not have to get the best grades or a 36 on the ACT to be intelligent or successful. It also should not reflect poorly on us if they still get a C in Chemistry. Your child excels in many other ways, and if school has been difficult, embrace the other activities even more. Your son received a low score on his test? That is okay! If he tried his hardest, then we celebrate that. He’s trying. Don’t expect perfection because it’s associated with homeschooling – you will set you and your kids up for failure.


When things feel imperfect, laugh about it. Your house is a wreck, dinner is pizza, and you feel like a failure of a parent because your life is not Pinterest perfect. Laugh at this! Your home is a mess because you have children who are rambunctious and probably at least a little funny. Instead of stressing about the state of your home, find the joy in the reason that your living room is untidy. Your kids have tennis shoes next to the door because they refuse to take them to their room no matter how many times you tell them and the clothes hamper is overflowing because you are too busy to even walk into the laundry room. Take a minute and breathe. Your kids are healthy and active, hence the tennis shoes, and you are blessed with an abundance of clothing, hence the heaping pile of dirty clothes. Take joy in the mess, and practice forgiveness!


You will never be perfect. Your children will be distracted and not want to do their grammar assignment and your bedroom will probably never look like a magazine cover. Guess what? It’s okay. There is beauty in imperfection. Show your children the same grace you would be shown as a mother or spouse. The only kind of perfection that we should ever think about is being like Christ. And Jesus knows that even this is unattainable. If God gives us mercy in our spiritual life when we fail, we can give ourselves that same grace in our daily, imperfect life.